For girls in the Philippines, being a submissive women is a part of filipino culture. We are taught at a young age to have good manners, respect, understanding so that we can become good mothers and submissive wives when we are ready to get married. I cannot speak for all filipinas, but I would say most.
We are taught that the role of a wife is to be “ilaw ng tahanan” that is Tagalog for the “light of the house”. It is the wife’s duty to make the house a Home. A wife must be there always to support her man’s decisions, give advices but without disagreement. A wife must do everything at home, from taking care of the kids, to teaching the kids to household chores. She helps the kids with their school assignments and projects. She participates in school meetings and the kids activities. Most importantly, keeping the house a “Happy home’’ that includes doing her best to serve her husband in and out of bed without complaints.
As a submissive wife, I think its not about being enslaved by my husband because when you love your man you always do your best to keep him happy and satisfied. Although it makes me feel bad sometimes, but I know I have to give way and not be selfish. No relationship is perfect but it doesn’t mean you won’t find happiness in that imperfect love.
Being submissive means becoming a great wife and avoiding most arguments that can sometimes end marriages. Submitting and agreeing to your man makes everything more peaceful. Its much better than nagging. There will be times when the husband is wrong and if you feel that there are better idea or solution to a problem, communicating calmly works than starting a heated conversation.
Achieving this submissiveness requires training and lots of patience because you mostly set yourself aside. It is very hard to change and to make adjustment but when you’re doing it to keep your husband, it gets easier because there is a purpose of why you must do it. It takes swallowing your pride and putting your husband first on top of everything to keep the marriage happy. That can mean losing a career and a dream. Although if your husband is supportive you can still aim for success but there are lots of things you have to consider for your family.
A woman cannot submit to every man. Every man is not worthy of such selflessness. I would say only a selfless man should have a selfless submissive woman.